I’m Still Thinking
By Kevin Sheehan, Special Columnist
Regardless of weekly content, this column is designed to help others expand their way of thinking and promote creativity, empathy, and thought in general.
In our world, everything has a value. That includes objects, activities, and ourselves. While monetary value may not be something that we think we assign ourselves (even though we do), that’s hardly the point.
When we look at purchasing something, we value that item by a dollar amount. We value our time with our employer, saying that the work we do is worth $xx.xx an hour, or however much salary we make. So purchases we make, we have an idea of how many hours we will need to work to pay for it, or a sense of what it is worth to us.
But all money aside, how much do we value ourselves? Do we love ourselves? Do we treat ourselves the way we treat the ones we love?
If we value ourselves, we will not allow ourselves to be mistreated. We would recognize that as a valuable person, we deserve better than to be abused. If we value ourselves, we will be happier, and more content in our own skin.
There is a point in my life where I felt everyone hated me, and that I agreed with them. But when that admittance of self-loathing happens, that spurs a need for change. But how can someone fall in love with themselves?
- Recognize what you are good at. Give yourself praise where praise is due and criticize yourself when you need to work on something. All too often we only criticize ourselves, being our own worst enemy.
- Realize that you are human. Now, it might sound funny to say lower your expectations for yourself, but try it. Holding unreasonably high expectations of perfection frustrates everyone involved, especially when we are just humans who have a tendency to screw things up.
- Examine your ego. Pride is a silly motivation, and life is not a competition. You don’t have to be the best at everything. You don’t have to have the newest things. It doesn’t matter that some of your friends might be better than you at something. Don’t let pride rob you of joy.
It may seem silly to mention keeping a realistic ego in an article about loving yourself, but much like you would warn a friend if they were about to try something they couldn’t handle, you should warn yourself. This article is not to encourage you to hold yourself above everyone else, or to view yourself as a deity among men. The point is to have the self-awareness to look into a mirror and see what the people that love you love see.
The phrase “my own worst enemy” is used frequently in our culture, and it has been used a lot by me as well. We have a tendency to be harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else. But that needs to change.
We are in our bodies our entire lives. It will help you be happier if you can look in the mirror and love the person looking back at you. So what if you want to lose 15 pounds? Work together with mirror-you, don’t just look at him and hate the way he looks. Remember that you are your own best friend, and don’t let yourself down. Because my best friends are worth a lot more than they think they are, but that is just my two cents.
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