By Kevin Sheehan, Special Columnist
They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which would also support the saying that perspective is everything. One person might see a rusted car as a piece of junk, whereas another person might recognize the cars full potential and subsequent value. Someone might see an album and think, its just an old vinyl, but someone else may see it as the DJ promo copy of Prince’s Black Album (worth up to $8,000). The point is, we never really fully understand the value of something until we examine it in detail.
For instance, how do we value our friends? Do the people we choose to surround ourselves with contribute to our self worth or do they take away from it? Do we allow people to be toxic influences and drain our energy? On the opposite end of the spectrum, do we recognize when we have friends that will do anything for us, and treat us better than we treat ourselves? More importantly, do we try to reciprocate the feelings in that kind of a friendship, and refuse to take advantage of that individual?
Likewise, how do we value ourselves? Do we take care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally? Many people would consider a house as the largest investment in their lives, with a vehicle being the second largest. Fewer people would say that the largest investment in your life would be in a mate, or life partner. Even fewer still would admonish that the largest investment you will ever make is yourself. After all, cars, houses, and even spouses can come and go, but you will always be you, and it is imperative to remember that you need to take care of yourself.
Go to the gym and exercise your body. Go read an encyclopedia or a book and exercise your mind. Go to a support group and help others to exercise your emotions. It isn’t a waste of time, it is an investment.
We all have different priorities in life. Some have determined to become an expert in their craft. Some have set financial goals to try to attain. Some have tried to become Olympians, some have tried to become inventors, and the list goes on and on. All goals such as these stem off of passions or feelings of importance in those individuals. The importance to be rich, the importance to be famous, or the importance to contribute to society can motivate people to go and do great things, or things not so great.
The question at the end of the day really is: What is important to you? Some people aren’t driven to conquer the world, but are content to be surrounded by friends and family, and a lesser-known secret is: there is nothing wrong with that. Value in ones family is just a different priority, and like many things people hold in high regard, can be considered priceless.
With every priority, sacrifices must be made. To stay fit, one might have to sacrifice junk food. To hit financial goals, one might have to be more frugal. This is where priorities get complicated and you must be honest and open with yourself and those around you about what is important. Your best friends will support you, but don’t forget they have dreams too. Because one day you may reach your goal, but if you are alone and have nobody to share it with, was it worth it?
That is the type of situation when you reexamine what you prioritized.
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