By Kevin Sheehan, Special Columnist
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I don’t have the greatest memory. Perhaps it was years of substance abuse, perhaps it was all the training to forget things I have done. But recently, as my life has improved, I actually have the desire to remember things. But it isn’t as easy as it seems.
I think we all have a tendency to document things. Some of us keep a journal, while some of us may keep daily voice recording logs. Some of us may take videos of memories, while some of us take pictures to remember our meals. But the summation of the equation shows that we all want to remember the good times.
But the question remains: do we always want to document everything? I see too many people on a regular basis focus on taking a good video of a moment rather than enjoying a moment by itself. Too many people focus on the necessity to remember the good times than having a good time itself.
I overheard a conversation the other day between two guys. One was describing a text message conversation they were having with their girlfriend just moments prior. He talked about how their conversation was progressing, then said, “She then told me to call my dad, and call him grandpa. I was like, ‘Are you serious? Are you pregnant?’ Then she sent me a photo of the pregnancy test.”
I stood there, dumbfounded. No matter how perfectly the conversation then unfolds, she will never experience the joy of seeing his face when she first told him the news. There are exceptions, but really, where are there spots that you can send and receive texts messages, but not video chat? For the rest of his life, his child will hear the answer “Your mother texted me,” whenever they hear the story of having a child.
This isn’t normal. We do not have relationships anymore, we have the perception of a relationship through social media. How many people can say “Thoughts & Prayers” through social media in times of crisis, but actually do nothing to provide help to those undergoing tribulation? We radiate more technology than humanity now. Feel I am wrong? The next concert you go to, see how many people record the concert on their phone. The next time a sunset happens, stop and actually look at the sunset, don’t take a picture to look at later.
I am guilty of this too, believe me. I struggle with the amount of time I want to experience things and the amount of time I write it on the keyboard. I want to remember every moment because every moment defines you and who you become as a person, but remembering everything can prevent you from moving on. Some things are better left behind. Some memories are better forgotten.
I have said it before, and I will never stop saying this. Unplug. Put the phone down and look at the person in front of you. After all, your phone will always be there, but the person in front of you may not. Don’t stress over records of the good times, because honestly, you’ll miss it. The best things in life are spontaneous, the best things in life are unexpected, and should be seen with your eyes, not a camera.
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